Anger is a basic human emotion and feeling angry is OK. It is how we respond to and express that anger that can cause problems. Expressing anger in an abusive, violent or negative way is unacceptable. Rather than trying to suppress the anger, we need to learn how to manage it in a way that acknowledges the feeling while not harming anyone els
Everyone has experienced anger. The intensity of your anger can range from profound annoyance to extreme rage. It’s normal and healthy to feel angry from time to time in response to certain situations.
But sometimes people experience an uncontrollable anger that often escalates, especially when the provocation is minor. In this case, anger is not a normal emotion but a major problem.
What causes anger and anger problems?
Anger comes from a variety of sources and can vary widely. Some common anger triggers include:
- Personal problems, such as missing a promotion at work or relationship difficulties.
- A problem caused by another person such as cancelling plans.
- An event like bad traffic or getting in a car accident.
- Memories of a traumatic or enraging event.
In other cases, an anger problem may be caused by early trauma or events in a person’s life that have shaped their personality. In some cases, hormonal changes can also cause anger, as can certain mental disorders.
Questions to ask yourself:
- Do you sometimes have trouble controlling your temper?
- Have you ever become angry and regretted it later?
- Have you ever lost control of your anger to the point where you became violent or abusive?
- Has anyone ever commented on your anger?
If you answered ‘yes’ to any of the questions, here are some initial ideas to help take the strength out of anger.