T ransformation is, by definition, a thorough or dramatic change in form or character—a metamorphosis, of sorts. Although we change all the time, we certainly do not transform all the time. The grand cycle of life and death offers to each of us the greatest transformational experience possible, yet within a person’s lifetime true transformation is a relatively rare occurrence. Think back for a moment across the span of your life and identify how many times you can honestly say you ‘transformed,’ in that you went through a period of thorough or dramatic change in form or character—a metamorphosis on an external or internal level. My guess is you can count them on one hand. These are instances of ‘human transformation,’ and it’s helpful to clarify what we mean by that phrase because the meaning influences how we define transformation coaching.
In simple terms, transformation coaching is focused on enabling self-actualization. Far more than ‘options-strategy-action’ to attain goals or clarity or to get better at something, transformation coaching dives deep into an individual’s psyche, focusing on who that person is and desires to become. Transformation coaching is therefore an ontological approach because it is about ‘being’ rather than ‘doing.’
The big questions there for is: “Who do you choose to be?” and what makes the process transformational is learning and doing what it takes to grow into the embodiment of that choice in being.
Most of us, will still bring our personal goals, objectives, and high dreams to the table in transformation coaching conversations; however, both coach and client are aware that those function as the context for the deeper dive within, and are not the end game in themselves. The driving question remains grounded in a choice in being: Who do I need to be in order for my goals or dreams to become a reality? The ‘becoming’ process is the transformation path, and the end game is the embodiment of higher than realised levels of existence.
To facilitate this process, a transformation coach supports you to dive below the surface and immerse you in self-exploration, to examine your beliefs, images, and interpretations about who you are and your purpose and place in this world—it is all of these which give rise to your existing way of being, and examining them sheds light on why you experience life as you do.
From you, it requires the willingness to face shadowy fears and beliefs in order to become free of patterns of thought and emotion that have held you captive for a lifetime. Change then happens at the core level of your mind, within your internal operating system, and when you start growing significantly at this level it creates the starting point, for equally significant shifts in your behaviors, choices, and emotions.
Over time, real transformation occurs, and the necessary thoughts, attitudes, and actions which function to bring envisioned goals into existence will arise organically, as an expression of the fulfillment of your higher nature.
A Transformation coach listens for the underlying beliefs and assumptions you are speaking from. Whether the speaking or acting comes from facts, patterns of behavior, assumptions, or feelings. Once identified and explored the transformation coaching process helps you develop the clarity to recognize what has been holding you back from full expression and helps you discover the most productive way to move forward. Seeing and experiencing ourselves differently is the first requirement to make shifts in our behavior and habits.
“Change can be hard. It requires no extra effort to settle for the same old thing. Autopilot keeps us locked into past patterns. But transforming your life? That requires courage, commitment, and effort. It’s tempting to stay camped in the zone of That’s-Just-How-It-Is. But to get to the really good stuff in life, you have to be willing to become an explorer and adventurer.”
— John Mark Green