Why is confidence so important?

Confidence is believing in yourself, feeling comfortable in your true-self, knowing you have worth. If you are confident, people believe you, confidence is attractive, brings success, helps you to connect well with others and you generally feel happier. Only you, can say you’re not confident. What excuses do you have stopping you from your confidence?

12 Benefits of greater self-confidence:

Being your best under stress. Athletes, musicians and actors will attest to the importance of a high level of confidence. When you’re confident, you perform up to your potential and you want to perform your best when it counts the most, when under pressure. –

Influencing others. Self-confident people often influence others more readily. This helps when selling an idea or product or negotiating at work or home. –

Having leadership and executive presence. Self-confidence plays a big part in leadership and executive presence. You create such presence by how you think, act (including how you carry your body) and use your voice. –

Exuding a more positive attitude. When you feel confident about yourself, you believe you have an important and meaningful place in the world, giving you a positive attitude. –

Feeling valued. When you’re confident, you know what you excel at and that you have value. –

Rising to the top. Looking for a promotion? The more confidence you have, the more likely you are to be promoted. –

Being sexier. Did you know that confidence is sexy?  –

Reducing negative thoughts. Greater self-confidence allows you to experience freedom from self-doubt and negative thoughts about yourself. –

Experiencing more fearlessness and less anxiety. Greater confidence makes you more willing to take smart risks and more able to move outside your comfort zone. –

Having greater freedom from social anxiety. Becoming more comfortable being yourself reduces concern about what others might think of you. How liberating! –

Gaining energy and motivation to take action. Confidence gives you positive energy to take action to achieve your personal and professional goals and dreams. The more highly motivated and energized you are, the more likely you are to take immediate action. –

Being happier. Confident people tend to be happier and more satisfied with their lives than people who lack self-confidence. –

Symptoms of a Low Self-Esteem Person.

Some symptoms of having low-self-esteem are obvious, while others are hidden. Here are the common and lesser-known symptoms of a low self-esteem person.

Common Symptoms,

  • Unable to trust your own opinion
  • Always overthinking
  • Afraid to take challenges, being worried you wouldn’t overcome them
  • Hard on yourself but lenient with others
  • Frequent anxiety and emotional turmoil.

Lesser-Known Symptoms.

Being a workaholic.

At work expectations are set clearly. Even if there’s pressure in the workplace, compared to relationships or the social world where so much is unknown and uncontrollable, work is more straightforward.

It’s easier to meet the expectations and perform well at work. Therefore, some people with low self-esteem would shift their focus to work and put all their energies there.

Overachieving or underachieving.

Many of us have already heard that people with low self-esteem tend to be under-achievers as they’re too afraid to take new challenges and not confident enough to fully utilise their talents.

However, there’s another extreme. Some of them are too anxious of failure and being rejected, so they will try their very best to be outstanding to prove their worth.

Causes of Low Self-Esteem.

Most of the time it stems from our childhood. Here are some negative early experiences that lead to low self-esteem:

  • Frequent punishment.
  • Frequent neglect.
  • Chronic abuse.
  • Harsh parental standards.
  • Being bullied/boycotted.
  • Being on the receiving end of someone else’s stress or despair.
  • Lack of praise, warmth and affection.
  • Staying in a family or group where other members are prejudiced towards you.

Some useful tips on how to gain confidence & maintain it.


  • Have positive mind chatter & believe you’re a good person.
  • Learn to like, respect & love yourself.
  • Be social.
  • Go outside of your comfort zone & have a go at new things.
  • Remain goal orientated & be proud of your achievements.
  • Accept complements.
  • Do things your good at.
  • Consider yourself & know you are a good person.
  • Spoil yourself.
  • Present yourself clean & tidy.
  • Accept that you & others are not perfect, you make mistakes, but accept responsibility.
  • Be happy & know you deserve it.
  • Accept who you are.
  • Do things you enjoy.
  • Don’t put things off.
  • Have gratitude.
  • Be a kind person, without expecting anything in return.
  • Look forward to life & the future.
  • Feel you are in control & have the power to change things.
  • Look for solutions to challenges & ways to achieve success.
  • Encourage people around you & respect their views.
  • Respect your own views & stand up for yourself assertively.

Childhood (Birth up to 21 years of age mostly) is when we form our “Model of the World” with our core “Beliefs, habits and behaviors” which affects the way we think, the way we see and perceive things around us. That’s why all the negative early experiences can have a very long-lasting effect on our adulthood.

How your “Model of the World” Affects Your Self-Esteem.

“Model of the World” or more correctly, “Model of, YOUR world”, is how you usually feel about something, based on your early experience.

Each of us have created our own unique “Model of the world”…our Map of the world, the way we see the world. This was formed based on the unique conditioning that we got from our parents, religion, school experience, friends and society. As each of us have different experiences in this regard, no two peoples Model of the world are exactly the same. These Maps we have created for ourselves are often limiting us in many ways due to our “preconditioning”.

As any other map, maps get outdated and so do ours. Without making a conscious effort to update your map of the world and the way you filter / perceive things, yours is completely outdated, like most of us. The only way you can create a new life, a better future, a strong self-confidence…is to constantly update your map by updating and changing your pre-conditioning and the way you take in, and perceive information you are exposed to by filtering it differently than before.

The Transformation Coaching process has incredible tools to help you getting rid of all your Mental and Emotional baggage, Negative or Limiting Beliefs that was plant’ed in your subconscious, knowingly or unbeknown to you,  that hinders you constantly to grow as a person and preventing you from becoming the confident, resilient person with a strong self-esteem you want to be. With these powerful methodologies, we will help you to increase your awareness and consciousness to start creating the life that you choose to have and look at that person in the mirror with joy, admiration and proudness.

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